"Love cannot be earned. And it cannot be lost." - Rev. Serenity Tedesco

So many of us find spirituality through suffering.
But then we try to earn our way to God.
We try to achieve healing.

We do all the “right” things—meditate, practice, serve, read all the texts.
And still, something feels hollow.
Still, something whispers:
You’re not enough yet.

Why?

Because deep beneath the devotion… is a wound.
A core belief so many of us carry:

I am not worthy of love just as I am.

From that place, even our kindness becomes performance.
Even our gentleness becomes a mask.
We’re no longer just living—we’re auditioning.
Trying to be the best partner, student, teacher, leader…
Because maybe, just maybe, then we’ll finally be enough.

But here’s the truth:
Love cannot be earned.
And it cannot be lost.

This is the core misunderstanding spiritual seekers must face.
If we bring our trauma to yoga, to Dharma—without healing the wound underneath—we risk turning liberation into another performance.

We stop being ourselves.
We become a role:
The perfect one.
The holy one.
The always-compassionate one.

But awakening isn’t about being perfect.
It’s about being real.
It’s about remembering what was always true:
You are lovable because you exist.

You do not have to earn safety.
You do not have to audition for acceptance.
You do not have to spiritually perform to be held.

Pause.
Feel that in your bones.

Then ask yourself:
Where am I still trying to prove I’m worthy of love?
What would it look like to let that go—even for a moment?

That’s the doorway.
That’s the unlearning.
That’s the beginning of true freedom.

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